"Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love." ~Mildred B. Vermont~

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

CC: Breakfast in Bed

My husband is a sweet, loving and thoughtful person; he makes breakfast for us during his days off from work. When he is done making breakfast, he would wake me up with a kiss saying: Honey your breakfast is ready :-)! but breakfast in bed is not in his mind. On the other hand, I always plan of making him a breakfast in bed especially on his birthday, father's day or even Valentine's day, but it never happened. The reason,...it's either I forgot it or felt lazy. I still hope that I can do it for him next time. To those who have done this for their spouses, you guys are so sweet! I salute you for putting extra effort in making your hubby or wife extra happy :-)!

For more breakfast in bed entries, click the badge below. Many thanks to Liza of This is My Life for creating this meme where we can brag about our spouses whom we all love so dear!

Rodliz’s Nest

Learning To Be Responsible

I like that my son loves to help me at the house. He particularly likes doing the laundry like putting the clothes in the washer, taking it away and loading it to the dryer and pouring out laundry detergent before I run the washer. One more thing he want to do is vacuuming the carpet that is why we bought a swivel sweeper which is very light and easy to maneuver. I bet you guys seen this on the tv. We both love it even though it is a bit pricey. Who cares as long as my son loves using it...that way he is learning to help in the house as well as being responsible at young age.

Thrilled To Ride RV...

Like I mentioned before, my in-laws are already retired which means, they are free to do whatever they want. They can go wherever they wanted to go. They love nature, traveling, camping, and visiting their kids that lives with their families away from them. They are old, but they can still drive as far away as 12 hours drive when they go home after visiting us. Sometimes, they travel with their RV which is good because we get to ride in their recreational vehicle. Few years ago, they sold their old rv and bought a new one. We thought they don't have to do rv financing, but they did! I guessed new rv cost more than I thought it would be. This coming spring break, we plan to see them and maybe we would get the chance of riding their rv again; our son would be very thrill! We couldn't wait to see them again.

It Makes Me Feel Comfortable!

Being born in a country that has only two seasons which are: rainy and sunny says, made it hard for me to adjust with the weather here in United States especially during winter time when it is cold not to mention the snow! It is nice to experience summer, fall, spring, and winter. But here in Texas, when you say summer, it is really hot! Then, winter is very cold for me and is even colder when it is coupled with snow. That is why, my husband bought heated mattress pads so I would feel comfortable when I sleep at night. Isn't he sweet!? Yes, he is. He is benefiting from the heated mattress pads now because he has gotten used with the weather here in compared to where he grew up which is cold almost all year long.

Nothing Much

Today, I didn't do much, but walked on the treadmill, watched my fave Pinoy soaps and took a nap afterward. This is one of those days where I feel like I am being pampered with mu husband who happened to be off from work. Whatever I do, he just let's me. Well, I do the same thing with him that is why we hardly argue. It always works for us. I am so loving being married to him! If I had to do it again, I would marry him over and over again :-)!

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Thanks Honey...

...for the wonderful gifts (flowers, card and chocolates...not on the pix)you and Jake gave me a day before Valentine's Day. I was really surprised and didn't know what to say! You just made my day happy. With that...let me tell you how much I love you and how lucky I am to have you as my best friend, lover, husband and a great father to our son, Jake.

I Am Mad at Him...He still loves Me!

This is one example of how much hubby tells me that he loves me. It happened half an hour ago when I nagged him about our house hunting...that he needs to decide which area he wanted us to live and how much we can afford to buy. He has been a wishy washy lately and it is driving me crazy. Well, as always, he don't want to argue with me, so he just kept his mouth shut and calmly told me to wake him up from his nap when I am really for lunch. Yup, he would take me to a seafood restaurant because I told him last night that I am craving for seafood. All of a sudden I feel guilty! There I was nagging him and all he could think about is the lunch he promised me last night. This is the moment where I will go to him and ask forgiveness. I will give him a big hug saying how sorry I am for snapping at him like that. He will just say: It's okay honey, but don't do it again. He is so forgiving and understanding that I feel so touch and cry...and ask: are you sorry now that you marry such a mean woman? Silly, don't you ever think about that...you know I will always love you...no matter what! I say, that my hubby is not perfect man...but a perfect lover to me...and could never ask for a husband like him.

We Like Modern Furniture!

Back In Virginia where we used to live, we tried to sell our old furniture online and was lucky enough to get a buyer. He went to our apartment and check on the furniture we had for sale. He bought our china hutch, dining set, end tables and lamps, but not the set of couches. I asked him why he doesn't want it and he replied saying that they can't sell modern furniture because people in the are where he lives don't really like modern or contemporary furniture. I guess there still some people who like the old style furniture. Unlike them, we like modern furniture and that is what we have now. We will be moving to a house soon and we plan to buy additional couch for our living room. Anyway, we ended giving away our old couch to my brother in-laws wife for she needs it in her office. We were glad it didn't go to waste.

CC: Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?

I really like the topic for this week's Couple's Corner created by Liza which is “Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?”

Love is a feeling of deep devotion, concern, and affection. The greatest example of God's love for His children is found in the infinite Atonement of Jesus Christ. Love for God and fellow men is a characteristic of disciples of Jesus Christ.

Believe it or not, but I so trust my husband enough not to worry about wrinkles, gray hair and toothless when we both get old. Matt loves me for who I am and how different I look now... ten years ago when we first met. I was skinny then...and now am big...but he still loves me. We always said to each other that “I want to grow old and gray with you.” And that is enough for me. Matt shows me how much he loves me in countless ways...we've been through a lot...and he never stopped loving me...never gave up on me. Yup, every once in awhile, Matt will tease me saying how big my tummy is, how shinny my face is, or it's time or need to comb my hair...I am not worried because he loves me. Despite of my many imperfections, he always assures me that “He will and still love me now and forever. My husband is not a perfect person, but a perfect lover/hubby for/to me!

Rodliz’s Nest

Monday, February 15, 2010

Ten Secrets of a Successful Marriage

A lifelong commitment requiring effort, sacrifice and... sometimes...teeth-gritting patience. Not to mention a whole lot of love. Here some of tips I got online to make our marriage work and succeed.

1. Complain constructively. Deal with problems immediately using clear and specific language. Keep your cool and describe the issue as you see it, but avoid sweeping statements. "Before you say anything, visualize holding your partner's hand, then talk about the things that are difficult.

2. Share your concerns."Don't be secretive about how you feel. Set aside time to discuss the problem and lay some ground rules. One talks; the other listens. Practice telling each other what you are feeling and what she/he needs, even if such expression brings conflicts to the surface."

3. Be a little selfish. Just say no... say yes often enough that your yes carries weight. It may sound crazy to people who value hard work and devotion to family, our advice is this: You need to be a little more selfish," says Gottman. Schedule "me" time for your interests and "us" time to reconnect. "When responsibilities mount, such 'indulgences' are usually the first to go. "But outlets like these...provide you with the energy you need to navigate hard times."

4. Break the cycle. Criticism is a lonely creature, but sometimes it shares a bed with defensiveness and contempt. Before long, you've got a problem of biblical proportions. "With so much criticism and contempt in the air, neither partner feels like talking about things that really matter to either of them. State your problem neutrally, without criticizing, insulting or digging up old bones. Tell your partner what you need ("I want to feel respected") rather than what you don't ("Don't call me names!"). When he responds, don't be defensive but listen carefully and ask open-ended questions ("How can we achieve this?"). Lastly, thank him for listening to you.

5. Fulfill your dreams. Take turns talking intimately about your dreams, hopes and aspirations, then think of ways to be flexible about investigating them. It may be your deepest desire to slap on a Tilley hat and take an Indiana Jones vacation. But rather than circumnavigating the globe on a raft, consider a compromise, such as short, exciting trips that accommodate your spouse. In short, find ways to foster the spirit of each other's dreams.

6. Support each other. First, there was a little black cloud. Then, the taciturn stranger moved in. Where did your happy spouse go? According to the Public Health Agency of Canada, he may have joined the eight per cent of adults who face major depression in their lifetimes. Or maybe it's temporary: setbacks at work, a death in the family or unrelenting stress has made him moody and harder to read than Sanskrit. Either way, if you're on the receiving end, his frustration and resentment can be frightening because it feels like an attack on you, says Johnson. Listen compassionately, find support wth each other.

7. Communicate with clarity. Get his focused attention, then let him know in neutral language what you need ("Could you clean out the garage?" rather than "Oh my gosh! What an unholy disaster!") and when you need it done ("By tomorrow"). Each of you should try to remain open to each other's ideas and to compromise. If he can't do as you ask immediately, for example, at least secure his good intentions for the future. "If he can tell you he's on side with you, it's not a confrontation anymore.

8. Calm your anger. Annoyance, irritation or fury -- call it what you will. Regardless of whether anger is directed at you or you've got your own issues to burn, it can be painful, nerve-racking and disruptive for all involved. Calm down, take a step back and recast your indignant anger ("You're so selfish! You never think of me!") into personal frustration ("I'm hurt and upset that my needs aren't being met"). Anger is natural, but it can be damaging if it eclipses love. Talking about frustration instead of anger "doesn't imply blame and resentment, and so will be better received. "Express how something upset you, how it didn't work for you."

9. Take time together. Forget Happy Families. These days, it's more like Busy Kids and Exhausted Parents. "Once the kids arrive, it feels as if your entire life is booked. "Problems arise, however, when couples use their parenting obligations as an excuse for neglecting their relationship with each other." Start with a date night, such as a walk through the park or a beer at the pub. Practice turning toward your partner when he makes a bid for connection. If you're feeling out of sorts after a bad day and he brings you a glass of wine, for example, don't stay silent (turning away) or point out that you didn't want it (turning against). Accept the gesture, smile graciously and say thanks.

10. Appreciate the differences. You wait for sales; he buys on impulse. You tidy-as-you-go; he prefers the science-experiment approach to housekeeping. Both are ongoing issues that, despite efforts to renovate each other, just won't go away. Happy couples openly discuss their ongoing points of dispute, thereby making them more manageable, according to Gottman's studies. Make dialogue rather than problem-solving your goal, remembering that the issue -- not your partner... is the problem. There are no right and wrong solutions. Above all, accept that the problem may never go away, but you can still be happy together.

Love tip:
Keep a mental list of qualities you admire in your spouse, whether it's his goofy sense of humour, his integrity or his manly forearms. "Fondness and admiration are the perfect antidotes to contempt," says Gottman. If you're tempted to find fault during an argument, "Look for evidence that your partner is getting it right." Ask him to do the same for you.

Thursday, February 11, 2010

I Am So Loving My Hubby!

Am I spoiled wife or what? My husband has been very nice enough to drop and pick Jacob up at school the whole week. He is so sweet, imagine from working a graveyard shift, he would still do the dropping and picking up Jake at school. This morning, I told him that I would pick Jake up so he could sleep well without interruption. But he said to not worry because he would still do it for me. Oh, how I love this man. Well, I guess shopping for our Valentine's Day dinner on Sunday will be done on Saturday. Oh well, I can't complain :-)! Right now, am in front of TV watching the news while folding clothes. I would be going back to bed after this. Be visiting and dropping EC later today. Thanks for stopping by, guys :-)!

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

CC: Valentines Day Plan

Rodliz’s Nest

It's Couple's Corner once again hosted by Liza. And here is my entry this week. Valentines Day is the theme and I am happy to share our plan tomorrow.

Actually Matt doesn't really care about celebrating Love day because for us, everyday is Valentines day. The other day, I asked him what his plans for us and he said: I don't have any plan; maybe it is time for you to plan :-). Well, I don't really want to go anywhere, plus it is cold out side. A simple dinner home would be enough...no gifts for we both doesn't care about it...flowers are expensive and don't stay fresh all the time...card is enough for us.

Before, we used to go out and have dinner or lunch at our fave restaurant but not anymore...plus if we do go, it won't be romantic since Jake will be coming with us! Okay, my plan is make a nice dinner, a steak maybe and mashed sweet potato and steamed green beans. If I don't get lazy, I might make a sugar free cupcakes.That would do since he will be working tomorrow night and we will have dinner before going to work.

Happy Valentines' Day Everyone!

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Couple's Corner: How Do I Love Thee?

Many thanks to Liza of This is My Life for letting me brag about my husband and how much I love him...I love my husband for countless reasons and here are some of them...

Rodliz’s Nest

I love my husband...because he loves me for who I am...and still loves me despite that he'd seen the worst me.
I love him... because he is a good husband, father and a good provider.
I love him for the way he handles difficult situations...he is there when I am down.
I love him because.. wants me to stay at home and take care of his and our son's need.
I love him because... he loves my family and thinks of ways to help them more than we are able to.
I love my husband... because he trust me, he confides with me, know what I think and feel, and follow my lead.
I love him... for he always assures me of his love for me...that he will lay down his life for me.
I love my husband for the way he plays and interact with our son...and though I don't like that he spoils him...it makes me feel good that he adores him.
I love that he helps in the house cooking, doing laundry, washing dishes, make appointments for me, speaks on behalf of me when I don't feel like talking, and do almost everything for me when I can't.
I love my husband... for being him, simple, thoughtful, understanding, supportive, caring, loving, patient, forgiving, and for being a critic sometimes..

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Free Kittens

A pretty little girl named Suzy was standing on the sidewalk in front of her home. Next to her was a basket containing a number tiny creatures; in her hand was a sign announcing FREE KITTENS.

Suddenly a line of big black cars pulled up beside her. Out of the lead car stepped a tall, grinning man.

"Hi there, little girl, I'm President Obama. What do you have in the basket?" he asked.

"Kittens," little Suzy said.

"How old are they?" asked Obama.

Suzy replied, "They're so young, their eyes aren't even open yet."

"And what kind of kittens are they?"

"Democrats," answered Suzy with a smile.

Obama was delighted. As soon as he returned to his car, he called his PR chief and told him about the little girl and the kittens.

Recognizing the perfect photo op, the two men agreed that the president should return the next day, and, in front of the assembled media, have the girl talk about her discerning kittens.

So the next day, Suzy was again standing on the sidewalk with her basket of "FREE KITTENS" when another motorcade pulled up, this time followed by vans from ABC, NBC, CBS and CNN & Fox News.

Cameras and audio equipment were quickly set up, then Obama got out of his limo and walked over to little Suzy.

"Hello, again," he said, "I'd love it if you would tell all my friends out there what kind of kittens you're giving away."

"Yes sir," Suzy said. "They're Republicans."

Taken by surprise, the president stammered, "But... but... yesterday, you told me they were DEMOCRATS."

Little Suzy smiled and said, "I know. But today, they have their eyes open."

Monday, February 1, 2010

Do you always wash your hands after you use the toilet?

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Today's meme- Bathroom Musings

For each of the prompts, you may answer with an image, a sentence or however you want to.Simply copy and paste this into a post on your site and answer the prompts. Be sure to list your a direct link to your post and visit the other participants.

1. What do you read when you are sitting on the toilet?
~~ Books, magazines, newspaper ...anything I find interesting.
2. Do you pee in the shower?
~~ No! But what if you are actually taking a shower and you need to?
3. Do you always wash your hands after you use the toilet?
~~ Yes.
4. Do you allow someone to come into the bathroom while you are using the toilet?
~~ Yes, if it is my hubby!
5. Do you clean your shower in the nude?
~~ No.
6. When you use the toilet at someone else's house do you go through their medicine cabinet and/or their bathroom cabinets and drawers?
~~ Nope!
7. For the Men...Have you ever left the toilet seat up on purpose to irritate the woman in your life?
8. For the Women...Have you ever fallen into the toilet because someone left the toilet seat up?
~~ Yup, I think at one time.
9. Do you courtesy flush?
~~ No idea what courtesy flush is!
10. Do you light a match or a candle or spray an air freshener when you are finished pooping?
~~ Sometimes.
11. Have you ever fallen asleep on the toilet?
~~ Not yet!
12. What is the strangest thing you have ever flushed down the toilet?
Sanitary napkin :-(

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