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Couple's Corner #7: Misunderstanding

It's time for Couple's Corner created by Liza of This is My Life. This week's Topic is all about "Misunderstanding."

We all know that in every relationship, be it friendship, marriage, family etc..., misunderstanding cannot be avoided. Most misunderstanding that Matt and I had were all my faults especially during the first few years of our marriage. The very reason of our misunderstanding were all about language barrier. I was so sensitive enough to take what he said in a wrong way. Thank goodness, he is very understanding, loving, and patient with all the little fights caused by me. Yup, even the small things, I made big deal out of it! I don't want to elaborate them because now, as I think about it, was all very childish.

I remember one time, I got so upset with a small thing; I can't really remember what that thing was, I just went in our bedroom crying. He tried to talk to me to know what did he do wrong, but I remained silent and was crying (I always do that), he became so frustrated and upset, he hits the wall and his hand bled (this never happened again). That time I became nervous because he has never done that before. I told to myself, he must be that upset. Well, that was the first time that I apologized to him which I never done ever since we got married. Even though it was my fault, he is always the one who apologizes first; but not that time! Yup, that was how prideful I was before. Now, when I get really upset (rarely happens), I cry hard saying " I want to go home, and that I don't belong here." I don't really mean it when I say those two phrases... just trying to scare him. Anyway, the good thing about misunderstanding is that, we always kiss and make up. We make sure that on every fights we had, we never let a day passed without talking things over. No more silent treatment for it is not healthy for our marriage and will not fix any problem between us.

COUPLE’S CORNER #6: First Year of Being Married

It's Couple's Corner once again hosted by Liza; and time for me to share a a summary of the first year of being married.

The first year of us being married was one of the happiest years of my life. Though we came from totally different countries, cultures, background and language, I can say that we were able to put our differences aside and exercise compromise to make our marriage work. My husband is a very understanding man who knows how to handle difficult situations and makes me feel better. It was a big adjustment for both of us, but because of our love for each other and with God's helped those differences helped us know each other more. Being a Filipina, I am a sensitive; I easily cry and that was hard for him, not knowing what to do because I wouldn’t talk. But later on, when I explained that to him, he understood and knew already when to back off and let me deal with the problem. Don't get me wrong, we didn't really had a big fight at all. It was just me. Anyway, and when I am ready to talk, he is there to listen. We are not a perfect couple and so is our marriage…and just like every marriages, we have ups and downs, but the important thing is we are there to talk things over, find a solution together and support each other. There many things I like about being married: first you become one, your last name changed, no more inhibitions, no secrets, you share everything to each other. Looking back, I’ll say that the first 365 days of our marriage was amazing and was full of love and learning experiences that we will both cherish for as long as we live. God is and was our guide then and now.

Operation Smile!

To a very talented, athletic, simple, and sweet Woman I've met online....Clarissa; I just want to let you know that I am grateful to have known you. We may never meet in person yet, but I can feel your sincere friendship and love! I am sure when we finally meet you will be more than what I have expected you to be. Stay what you are for that is the only way to be happy! Thanks for being a good friend to me and many!

Whatever with the past has gone,The best is always yet to come. - Lucy Larcom

One More Day...

I saw this video at youtube and felt sad, because this reminds me and my husband when we lost our first baby on stillborn. The lyrics of this song is what exactly we felt when we were grieving for our lost. "I remember thinking, "this is not real/true, this can't be happening, this isn't happening. I remember both of us crying out, I remember Matt crying out, I remember him holding me, and both of us sobbing." On that moment our bereaved life changes in the instant." I still cry every time I think of her... and blames myself for I think that it was all my fault why she died. The doctor tried to explain with me that it wasn't my fault or the things I did or didn't do. Can you blame me for feeling that way still? I love her so much! Though I know we would be able to be reunited with her someday, knowing that she not here, makes me feel empty still. She was back to Heavenly Father for a reason of which I don't know...but am sure she is happy that we are doing our "best" here on earth just to be with her someday! I know for sure that "Families Can Be Together Forever.....someday."

"ONE MORE DAY"
sung by: Rocket Club Band

I'll never get to hold you
I'll never hear your sweet voice sing
I'll never get to say 'I told you so'
I'll never read to you, or get to teach you anything
But you'll always be my hope
You'll always be my first light
You're always gonna be Daddy's little girl
You'll always be the strength I need to make it in this world
I only wish for one more day
I'm gonna miss your first day of school
I'll never see you turn that page
I'll never see you in your graduation gown
And I'm never gonna see you coming of age
But you'll always be my hope
You'll always be my first light
You're always gonna be Mommy's little girl
You'll always be the strength I need to make it in this world
I only wish for one more day
Sweet angel of mercy
Coming down to comfort me
Faith, sit right here beside me
I never want you to go away
I'm always gonna wonder how you'd look
Always gonna wish I took your place up there
You'll always be our hope
You'll always be our first light
You're always gonna be our little girl
You'll always be the strength we need to make it in this world
We only wish for one more day
We only wish for one more day."