First of all, I'd like to share a little bit of last week's theme that I've missed due to my busy schedule. It was all about getting ready to go out. Before, Matt used to get ready longer than I am. And it kind of annoyed me. It was supposed to be me who spend more time in front of the mirror and not him! But then 'no.' Now, he gets dress pretty quickly and for me, I need 1 solid hour to get ready and that includes taking a shower, brushing my teeth, fixing my hair, putting on light make up and trying at least three dresses before I can finally get dress.
Okay, here is my share for this week them. Every once in a while, hubby and I get lost especially in an unfamiliar place or places we have never been before. But most of the time we find the right place or address when we have a direction from map quest. During those time when we couldn't find the place, I wished hubby would stop and ask someone for direction! It is annoying when he doesn't want to do anything....even listen to me when I asked him to stop and ask someone for direction!
What is it in a man asking for direction? A question I always ask myself when he chose to refused my entreaties to stop and ask someone for direction. Is it because ultimate display of male arrogance and stubbornness? If it isn't? Then what!? I did some research and this is what I've found/learned.
According to Alison Armstrong, the author of "Keys to the Kingdom." It is important to understand that men are NEVER "lost." To him, that implies a helplessness that he will never willingly experience. He simply hasn't gotten there yet and he has complete faith in his ability to do so.
Also, a man's unwillingness to stop and ask for directions is consistent with his survival instincts and actually not stubborn at all. First, the act of stopping the car, and rolling down the window, makes him (and you) more vulnerable than he is willing to be just to get some place faster.
Second, from a man's point-of-view, the moment he asks a gas station attendant, or someone on the street, for directions, he has put his life and yours in the hands of a stranger! Men, wisely, only put their lives in the hands of people who have proven themselves trustworthy. The way he sees it, you are both better off searching for your location yourselves than being at the mercy of the judgment of someone he doesn't know and trust.
Why has he never told you this? According to our research, this is because, to him, it is obvious. Every man already knows this and something that everyone already knows requires no explanation. It is a mystery to him why you seem to have forgotten this basic rule of survival.
Okay, here is my share for this week them. Every once in a while, hubby and I get lost especially in an unfamiliar place or places we have never been before. But most of the time we find the right place or address when we have a direction from map quest. During those time when we couldn't find the place, I wished hubby would stop and ask someone for direction! It is annoying when he doesn't want to do anything....even listen to me when I asked him to stop and ask someone for direction!
What is it in a man asking for direction? A question I always ask myself when he chose to refused my entreaties to stop and ask someone for direction. Is it because ultimate display of male arrogance and stubbornness? If it isn't? Then what!? I did some research and this is what I've found/learned.
According to Alison Armstrong, the author of "Keys to the Kingdom." It is important to understand that men are NEVER "lost." To him, that implies a helplessness that he will never willingly experience. He simply hasn't gotten there yet and he has complete faith in his ability to do so.
Also, a man's unwillingness to stop and ask for directions is consistent with his survival instincts and actually not stubborn at all. First, the act of stopping the car, and rolling down the window, makes him (and you) more vulnerable than he is willing to be just to get some place faster.
Second, from a man's point-of-view, the moment he asks a gas station attendant, or someone on the street, for directions, he has put his life and yours in the hands of a stranger! Men, wisely, only put their lives in the hands of people who have proven themselves trustworthy. The way he sees it, you are both better off searching for your location yourselves than being at the mercy of the judgment of someone he doesn't know and trust.
Why has he never told you this? According to our research, this is because, to him, it is obvious. Every man already knows this and something that everyone already knows requires no explanation. It is a mystery to him why you seem to have forgotten this basic rule of survival.
aahhh... so, that was it. hmmm, that's interesting..
ReplyDeleteSensiya na ate Ces at now lang ako naka blog hop, 1 week dito sa amin ang SIL ko, wala akong nagawa sa aking mga blogs. But anyways, pareho talaga ang mga asawa natin, di talaga hihinto at di magtatanong, mauubos na ang gas namin eh ikot lang ng ikot. Thanks for the infos about man not asking for direction, now we know why.. for our safety rin naman pala..
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