As what I said on Liza's comment box, one way to show that you love and care for your spouse is cuddling. Matt and I cuddle each other whenever we get a chance like watching TV together. I not only feel loved but also safe and secure...and he feels the same way, too. I like it that when Jake see's us cuddle, he jumps up right away on to our laps and cuddles with us :-). We call it now, a "family hug". Now, he (Jake) hugs and kisses me or Daddy every time he feels like telling how much he loves us. He is such a sweet little boy. Anyway, I don't think there is something wrong with cuddling each other when kids are present. For me, cuddling in front of our kids teach them how much their parents love each other and later in life they will treat their future spouses the same way. Okay, regarding cuddling after being intimate is normal and I think every couple does that after...or maybe I am wrong about it...maybe some sleep after ward :-)...but not us...we say I Love You while we are holding each other *wink*. Oh, did I mention that it is easier for me to fall asleep when he is holding me even when we are just watching our fave show or when we go to bed. He always tells me that he wishes that he can fall asleep like me in less than a minute! Yup, I can fall asleep that fast...snoring, he said :-)!